Is It Okay To Call Him Before The First Date?

It’s hard not to wonder, with every new couple, how they got there. Did he make it easy and call her? Did she have to consider that age-old question: is it okay to call him? Even when you’re rich and famous you still have to make the call on whether or not you make the call.

            Recently, I’ve been asked this question repeatedly. My answer is: if you want the opportunity to get to know him - definitely. If you’ve just met someone but haven’t yet had an official date, then I say sure, go ahead and call. He might want to be in touch with you, but his work could be bogging him down as well as other commitments. He might have walked away from you with every intention to call but then, for reasons that had nothing to do with you, days went by. In that time he might decide the opportunity is gone and it’s too late to call, or, he may have forgotten the impact you initially had on him and the interest he had in getting to know you might have disappeared. By reaching out to him, you can rekindle his curiosity and remind him why he wanted to call in the first place. At the same time, you are letting him know that you are still looking to connect.  Finally, it lets him off the hook if he thinks he missed the timing. So if you call a week later to show you enjoyed meeting him, it might just be the jump start he needs to get things going.

            If you decide to call, it moves you out of the worrying and waiting position, possibly feeling rejected. At the very least, you gave it a shot and took charge. At that point you will get your answer because he will either respond to your gesture with a plan to get together or he won’t.